Coping with Cancer Through Mind, Body, Spirit, and Emotions
Long ago, humans used the fight-or-flight response to survive natural threats, such
as man-eating tigers. Today, the stress response has become a complicated dynamic,
linking mind, body, spirit, and emotions. Ironically, the responses originally designed
to help us survive threats today can put you at risk for health problems and disease.
But it doesn't have to be that way. Stress can also motivate you to seek help, resolve
issues, practice forgiveness, and find inner peace. The most effective stress-management
program, regardless of circumstance, is based on the idea of balance. Many things
can knock you off center, but if you recognize this and seek to restore your sense
of balance, you can move toward a state of balance (equilibrium). First, let's look
at the aspects of cancer linked to stress. Then we’ll focus on how you can cope with
stress by finding peace mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
The fear of cancer
There are many reasons why stress arises at the mere mention of the word cancer. There
are many fears associated with the disease, including:
Fear of the unknown
Many questions arise when a healthcare provider diagnoses you with cancer. What kind
of cancer is it? What stage is it in? How do I treat it -- chemotherapy, radiation,
surgery? Will I die from it? How long do I have to live? What did I do to deserve
this? Why did this happen to me? Fear of the unknown can either motivate you to seek
more information, or it may immobilize you. You may conquer your fear of the unknown
with an inquisitive and balanced mind. Seek answers, but don't become overwhelmed
with too much information.
Fear of isolation
Many people with cancer feel like social outcasts. Others, in their own fear, may
withdraw, adding to their feelings of isolation. While the initial shock of a cancer
diagnosis may make you feel alone, you may overcome your fear by talking about your
feelings. Support groups are a great way to resolve your fear.
Fear of failure
This fear may show up, often as guilt, if you seem to make little or no progress during
your treatment. The premise of holistic wellness is that you must take an active role,
or responsibility, in your own health. Try to manage your fear by taking an active
role in your treatment.
Fear of death and dying
This fear arises when you confront your own (or a loved one's) mortality. If you have
many unresolved issues that you need to address, this fear may surface. But in our
culture, many people still consider death a taboo subject, and it remains a difficult
topic to address. Making peace with yourself and your loved ones is the first step
in facing your fear. The next step is focusing on living (not dying) and doing things
you really enjoy.
Signs of stress
Stress from cancer develops in different ways. There may be feelings of being overwhelmed
with responsibilities (both the person and their caregiver), and feelings of resignation
and helplessness. Here are some of the more common symptoms of stress from a holistic
At first stress can energize you. But without adequate rest, stress can drain your
energy. You can feel extreme tiredness (fatigue) rather quickly. On-again, off-again
fatigue may turn into constant lethargy. In addition, headaches, allergies, muscle
tension, and gastrointestinal problems may arise. Stress can and does cause wear and
tear on the body.
Mental stress ranges from boredom to feeling completely overwhelmed. Sensory overload
(too much information) can boggle your mind and confuse your thinking. Confusion and
poor decision-making can result from mental stress.
Stressful emotions can range from anger (impatience and frustration) to guilt, anxiety,
apathy, and resentment. Left unresolved, these emotions can pull you into a downward
spiral of depression.
A lackluster spirit becomes cynical, sarcastic, unforgiving, and apathetic. Stress
affects the 3 pillars of human spirituality: relationships, values, and life purpose.
Current research suggests that the mind and body are really one entity, not two separate
parts. Stated simply, there is no separation or division between the mind, body, spirit,
and emotions. The best stress management program is one that moves you from fear toward
peace, however you understand that concept.
A cancer stress management program
There are hundreds of ways to cope with stress. The goal of each approach, whether
coping skills or relaxation methods, is to replace your tension with serenity—mental,
physical, emotional, and spiritual. Below are suggestions for coping with stress:
Find a support group of people who live in your area and who are people with cancer
(or caregivers), like yourself. Research indicates that people who belong to a support
group are better able to cope with the stress of their disease. Online support groups
are a good start. But actually meeting with people and sitting down to discuss problems,
issues, and concerns is emotionally healing. Support groups provide comfort, boost
morale, and provide information. They are a great way to help you cope with the fear
of the unknown.
Humor therapy (comic relief)
Anger and fear are normal (and even healthy, in small amounts. But they are not healthy
when left unresolved for prolonged periods of time. Unresolved emotions can actually
suppress your immune system. Humor not only helps decrease your fear of death and
dying, it helps relieve your anger as well. If nothing else, humor can distract you
from the pain and suffering that may be linked to cancer.
Muscle tension is the number one symptom of stress, regardless of the stressor. Massage
therapy reduces muscle tension and promotes inner peace. There are many different
types of massage (Swedish, sports massage, myofascial release, rolfing, craniosacral).
Someone on your healthcare team or support group may know someone you can go to for
a full body massage. You will be amazed by how good it feels.
Complementary and integrative medicine
The field of complementary and integrative medicine is loaded with various forms of
healing. The purpose of all forms of complementary healing is to help your mind, body,
spirit, and emotions achieve balance.
Affirmations and prayer
A positive attitude is often hard to keep when your body is under attack. But self-talk
can be very effective in helping you maintain your equilibrium. Studies show that
prayer can help you find peace of mind and heal spiritually. Prayer helps you to feel
connected to a larger universe. You may feel disconnected from this larger entity in
times of stress. Prayer is medicine for the soul.
The connection between proper nutrition and health can’t be overstated. There is a
flood of special diets on the market to improve health. But common sense suggests
that everyone should eat balanced meals for a healthy immune system. There are 2 guidelines
to keep in mind: First, reduce the amount of toxins you take into your body. Second,
boost your body's natural healing ability. The following recommendations will help
you do both:
Eat more vegetables. They are high in fiber (reducing toxins in your gastrointestinal
tract). And they are often loaded with health-enhancing antioxidants.
Eat lower-fat, protein-rich foods. Chicken and fish are full of protein or amino acids.
Low-fat milk and cheeses are other protein sources.
Remember your essential fatty acids. The body can’t produce certain oils, like omega-3
and omega-6, so you must get them from natural sources. Most foods contain omega-6
oils, but most people do not get enough omega-3s. This can affect the integrity of
each of your cell's membrane. Salmon and flax seed oil are great sources of omega-3s.
There is no doubt that cancer can be very stressful. But it doesn't have to stay that
way. It is possible for you to achieve peace, balance, and harmony through following
some of the recommendations discussed. Try to remember that balance is the key to