Teens like to actively participate in deciding what happens to them. This includes
the kind of care they get. Parents need to act as partners with their teens in making
healthcare decisions.
Recognizing the fears that teens commonly have when going to a hospital will help
you prepare. Common fears and concerns may include:
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Let your teen be part of the decision-making process. Encourage them to make a list
of questions to ask the healthcare providers. If needed, help them assert themselves
during the office visit.
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Your teen should start learning and preparing as soon as the decision to have surgery
is made. Reading books and accessing trustworthy online sites suggested by your teen's
healthcare provider are good places to start.
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Child life specialists can provide age-appropriate explanations and help teens in
finding a variety of trustworthy resources.
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Teens find it hard to admit that they don't understand something. Parents and healthcare
professionals may need to explain treatment in several different ways, without making
the teen feel uncomfortable.
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Be honest and open with your teen about what will happen. But stay away from overly
graphic, frightening descriptions. Explain what your teen will see, smell, hear, taste,
or touch. Ask your provider for information if you are unsure.
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Consider asking your teen's friends from school to send cards or call during recovery.
But first, get approval from your teen before sharing any information or asking friends
to make contact.
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Your teen may find it helpful to write down their thoughts and feelings in a private
notebook or journal.
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Encourage your teen to pick out and bring a few comfort items from home, such as books,
handheld video games, a laptop computer (if internet access is available) or other
digital devices, and headphones. If your child has a cellphone, be sure to bring the
charging cable.
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In the hospital, your teen may have mood swings. It's important to be patient and
understanding. Your teen can become withdrawn and not want to talk or answer questions.
There may be times when your teen needs to be alone.
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Let your teen know that it's OK to be afraid and to cry. They might need to know you
have the same worries as they do. Reassure your teen of your support.
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Learn as much as you can about your teen's condition. Rather than doing random online
searches, ask your healthcare provider for reliable internet sites. Teens can tell
when their parents are worried. The more accurate information you have, the better
you will feel about explaining the situation to your teen.
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Be truthful when answering questions. Teens may become angry if they think people
are keeping secrets from them. They need to understand what is wrong with their body.
How the information is given is often as important as what information is given.
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Privacy is very much a need of your teen. Teens are often as private about their thoughts
and feelings as they are about their bodies. Always respect their privacy.